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FEBRUARY IS THE NEW JANUARY
Sarah Furuya Coaching introduces…
A 12 month coaching programme. 1:1. You and me. Let’s reset the year, walk through the year together, and step over the threshold of the following year with a year of coaching work and inquiry driving you. It’ll be so sweet. Imagine investing in yourself now and this time next year being clear, confident and motivated and STILL having another month of coaching support for your New Year Goals. YES. Every time I have invested in the support and work I need to support myself and my business, I have experienced growth, joy and transformation. AND it was tough without. I am making a huge investment in myself this year to ‘sharpen the coaching saw’. It will be a stretch, but I KNOW it’s worth it. All the pennies. All the information below…READ ON
Registration and applications open in January (look out for dates!), with early bird bonus special, and registration closes January 31st. We kick off with first coaching sessions in February and I am strictly limiting the numbers. I am genuinely excited.
A 12 month, 12 1:1 session, personalised coaching programme for women who want to invest in and give themselves the luxury of a year of affordable support and:
- Make sustainable change and chart your progress along with me for the long-term win
- Take you over your edges and cheer you on as you go there!
- Make action plans based on their deepest, truest desires and stories
- Admit to shit that is going on in your head or life and turn it round or let it lie
- Make practical and honest commitments to yourself and your business, friends or family based on what your really want
- Reset the year (January needs a reset) and be taken over the threshold of 2018 and make realistic as well as dreamy and ambitious short, long and medium term plans and commitments
- Ensure those plans are what you really want, what you can really do and are aligned with your truest most honest version of yourself right now
- Work through difficulties, overwhelm (what’s that?!) and celebrate success #proudofyou
- Take full responsibility and work through the relationships that maybe affected by your plans, goals and changes with kindness, compassion and even motivation
- Get treats, gifts, surprises, priority on other Sarah Furuya Coaching programmes, workshops and retreats
- Question and inquire about absolutely everything and have stylish fun doing it
- Have fun, laugh, learn how to take yourself absolutely seriously (you are glorious and have much to offer no matter what your mean inner voices say) and not at all seriously (woops. WOOPS. So much Woops)
I have found that a lot of people who sign up for FNJ are in group coaching programmes. But that it is not enough and they now want some serious, 1:1 accountability and coaching. Something sustainable. Just for them. That they invest in and are accountable to. Some people just do not want to be in a Facebook Group, revealing their secrets and discussing their most delicate inner worlds with other people, even if they are like-minded. Some people tire of these groups and actually turn off notifications. There will be no notifications to turn off. I only aim to turn you on. Energetically that is. Turn you on to your own glory and the glory of other people and the world around you. Action-wise, you know. This intimate programme does not require any group interaction at all. You are part of a group, a group that I look after tenderly, but you will never know who the members are. Just that they are out there and that I am holding you all close and dear as you journey the year together. Your hero’s journey.
12 months, personal coaching sessions, coaching content, email and message support, and so so much more!
****NEW Twelve monthly themes, materials and surprises NEW****
Spaces are limited and a number have been claimed by current clients so register interest soon! Few members receive a special surprise!
Sessions start in February
email email@example.com to get on the pre-registration list!
February is the new January is the most economical and sustainable way to give yourself the support and the guidance that can make all the difference to your year and life
But you pay up front, now and you have invested in yourself for the year. You commit, tell yourself you’re worth it, with a seasoned coach who will be with you every step of the way. (Payment plan option also available).
“Sarah is a sophisticated communicator and person-whisperer. She is able to hone in on your specific personality and the way you tick. Sarah is perceptive about the way the world is pulling and pushing you at any point…”
And you get Email or message support in between sessions. I’m all about the technology. And you can have a session a month OR you can bundle your sessions around a big project or stressful life event.
“Sarah is awesome! She’s warm and kind but also funny, smart, fierce, and oh so insightful”.
“I know that I would not have gotten through my post-grad phase as gracefully or as confidently had I not had you by my side.”
You don’t even have to think about it again. Sign up and pay now and you have your full support until next February. Year-end planning, mid-year planning. Business rhythms and cycles, a birthday, milestones. Everything. Births, deaths, Christmas, New Year, changes and stability. Together.
Apply now to secure your place and get the ball rolling and make that luscious commitment to yourself and get excited about really getting into next year with enthusiasm, boundaries and confidence.
February is the new January: Reload your year and cross the threshold into 2019 with 12 months of coaching and sustainable support. Read on for more reasons why you should so this. (Well I would love to do it with you!)
I have listened to hundreds of plans and strategies, problems, relationship challenges and witnessed the sweetest successes, mega-launches, promotions, failed multi-million launches, scandals, bankruptcies, divorces, family issues, family delights, functional break-ups, postponed break-ups, career navigation from freshman, to mid-career to executive movement. I bring all this rich corporate, small business, personal and professional experience to the table. And I get to co-create results with you. I also have a unique sense of style and way to walk through the world, yet still get corporate and executive clients repeating.
***From fear to action***
***From fear to comfort***
***From fear to achieving***
***From stories that don’t serve to stories that confront your truest wishes***
***From stories that protect to truth that releases courage***
***From silent, scandalous whispers to spoken wishes and wants***
***From idea in your head to actual action-oriented plan***
***From thinking about it to doing it***
***From thinking about it to abandoning, adjusting or postponing it***
***Timing, legal matters and practicalities lay the foundations for YOUR YEAR, reloaded. February is the new January***
So much love to you – I WANT TO WORK WITH YOU, and if this year is not the year then the future is always a-waiting…
And believe me, I’ve been there, I have been there. And still going there. I’ve been though and am going through all of it. I do the work because I am my work and I share what I am learning, which is everything all the time. I have broad cross-cultural experience that comes to your table having worked in UK, Hong Kong, Singapore and Japan and of course have 16 years of experience as a local expat (yes, it’s a thing) and all the challenges of being a fish in and out and in the water. Where’s the water? So much water. But what this really means is I deal with change on steroids. That I can quickly recognise cultural nuance, that may be family to family, corporation to corporation or person to person. And I just love what I do. And want to share it with you.
I loved the class of 2018 FNJers and there progress they made to their commitments is breathtaking. When they do the work. Month in month out showing up to the coaching, to themselves and to other people. The change in them was lasting and deep. And from a place of truth, not image or ‘should-do’.
“I left your session feeling something deep within”
From being an executive, scared of talking to the CEO and VPs for fear of looking stupid, to uncovering that was a shadow from an incident at school, that was still replaying, and being able to confidently partner with the senior executives while at the same time managing two country moves and taking on big global roles.
From being young, in your first job, afraid to talk to the senior people in the room to confidently networking and approaching the same people with a sense of ease and equality. Knowing that you have something to offer, even a 50 year old CEO.
From identifying as being a risk-taker, then realising you’re not such a risk-taker and re-planning accordingly. Thus having a better experience of your goal-setting, because you’re always falling short. Reigning in the risk. Being more honest with yourself.
“Sometimes our stories are so well worn, our set-pieces set so hard, that they can feel and appear real. We will dig down behind them.”
From fearing your dark side to understanding it is integral and has a purpose.
From trying to make your boss be a certain way, to understanding what it is they need, asking for what you need directly and being compassionate to their insecurities and understanding that it’s not always about you, it’s often about them.
From being frantic and panicked about your relationship and wanting to please the other person to understanding that you really want to please yourself and communicating that to your partner.
“My husband loves you. I’d like you to meet him in the future but for now I want you all to myself”!
Asking for what you want and need in a non-confrontational way and asking again and again. Being accountable and responsible for the outcome. No matter what that might be. No matter if it meets your expectation or not. Practicing and rehearsing responses, no matter what they be. Being psychologically prepared and robust enough to handle any answer. Whether it be a pay negotiation, request for face time with someone or a change in dynamics or partnering conditions. And doing that with regard for your own self esteem AND your conversation partner’s.
“Sarah is inspiring, not because of what she says, but what she enabled me to say”.
You want to do more in your life. But there are dynamics to that. You add, you take away. You sign up to one thing, you withdraw from another. We discuss those dynamics. As a chronic over-committer, I have had to employ some pretty deft moves to stop myself from being consistently overwhelmed and even then I WANT TO DO ALL THE THINGS. The young folk call it FOMO. (That’s fear of missing out). No makes way for yes. As the great Marie Forleo says “Get on the NO train”. It’s a toughy especially if you like to to loads of things and tend to say yes and love to wish-fulfill for other people. But there are ways of being graceful and kind and saying no. ESPECIALLY TO YOURSELF. And I can help you with that. Stop people pleasing (because that’s usually about you – I know that’s kinda painful for me to admit that too. That I want to be best in show. Top of the class. Teacher’s pet. Ew) and start to really say full, whole-hearted ‘YES’s’ to things you do want to do with people (Because that’s definitely, truthful and whole-heartedly about you).
You can make decisions from a well-thought-out place. Sometimes people come to me with ready-to-roast goals. So that’s just a case of action plans, milestones, accountability and methods of reporting and accountability and with whom and to whom. Or is it…?
…I ALWAYS check in first IS IT THE RIGHT GOAL? Is it? If not things will go awry, or you don’t experience the full relish of completion. DO YOU REALLY WANT IT? HOW MUCH? If you have kids do you want that promotion so much that when you have a big project to complete, you will serve up Origin Bento for a month. Or corral your partner to take part in the domestic piece. Or outsource the domestics. Or get a chef. Or get delivery. VERY PRACTICAL. But then on the psychology side, manage the guilt, the shame, the changing dynamic of the relationship in the face of something like this, the fall out of challenging gender stereotypes (both ways) in your partnership or simply time distribution. Or if you’re a single parent, go easy on yourself. Find a way to be honest about what to expect of yourself and your kids. Be realistic about your limits and how incredible you are too. Challenge your assumptions. Always.
“Thank you. I’m feeling energetic and excited for the first time in ages. My mind is buzzing with possibilities”.
Inquiry does that. Inquiring into every goal, statement, wish and story told to find out the truth. So you really want your family to sit around a table together? With a bit of inquiry you can uncover that no, that would be an untenable disaster. A nightmare of great proportions for all involved. It’s a nice idea for the end of a Hollywood movie. But the truth may be that you want to be able to sit with each of them individually. Do you really want to start your own business? Open a franchise? Take on that director’s role? Be the president of this Chamber or that organisation? Attend networking events? Start a website? Buy a house? Stay in that job? Get married? Get a divorce? Not have a baby? Join a cult? (Definitely always join that cult. The cultier the better. Cults are the best. Not really. Well we don’t know until we go into inquiry).
“Thank you Sarah! You create a fabulous space where people feel confident and supported in being their true selves”.
A few years ago, I had a wonderful client. She hated doing housework and cooking. She was the supported partner in the relationship. She felt guilty she wasn’t bringing income into the home. Her husband told her not to worry, all he wanted was to come home have dinner with her and return to a nice, clean house. Fair enough, no judgement here (He’s progressive, he just wanted her not to worry, he didn’t want a domestic slave or anything. It was enough for him to have a nice home and dinner, that’s all). But she had a story running that all she wanted to do was make him happy. That’s all I want is to make him happy, she said. So mmm. Is it true? I ask. Yes, she says. Well he’s told you very clearly what will make him happy. It’s really easy and very straightforward. Make dinner and have a clean house. He’s made it easy for you! Penny drops. Face relaxes (But also looks slightly shocked!), goosebumps on the Furuya end of Skype and she says you’re right, I don’t only want to make him happy. Turn it around. All I want is to make myself happy. OMG (she’s young. Probably knew what FOMO means). I don’t only want to make him happy, I want to make me happy! Yes, and what does your husband really want? He wants me to be happy…penny drops again. By being honest about what makes her happy she unearths the true way to make both of them happy! And gets out of a cycle of guilt about housework and dinners…this is how I become popular with husbands.
“My husband says thank you. He wants to take you out to dinner!”
No not every relationship is like this. Sometimes we are at the other end of the scale and in that case, it’s more than inquiry. It is practical hard facts and law. Get a lawyer, manage your psychology, be real. What do you really want? It may be practical to stay in the marriage. It may be that you have a yearning that can be solved within the marriage. It may be that that thing your husband is doing or not doing is a brilliant way for your to protect yourself from some hard truths. AND THAT’S OK. I am NOT a relationship coach or expert. I just get under the bonnet of people’s declarations, stories and propositions. There are usually very good reasons why people choose and stay in certain relationships. Sometimes I kind of sense that they are going to end or that the client already knows that there’s not really anywhere to go with it, but being in the relationship has its upsides, or as Susan Jeffers says in ‘Feel the Fear and do it Anyway’; Payoffs. Sometimes, it’s just not the right time to jump ship, or issue ultimatums. But being in truth about THAT can be as freeing as leaving a relationship itself.
I believe a goal without inquiry is a mistake and potentially a disaster waiting to happen. At least you’ll waste a bit of time. At worst you could break the law or break hearts, your own included. Inquiry is a good thing. Mental athletics. Even when you think you have the right fully-formed goal. But if you are struggling to get it off the ground. It could be that you’re not really that into it.
Everything I do revolves around 3 principles:
Firstly; the science. The practical. Financial. Law. The MUST-DO before doing anything. The adulting. The grown-up, real-world stuff. Examine evidence. Turn to the data. Take stock. Be realistic and keep it real. Change your story? START FROM WHERE YOU ARE.
Secondly; the psychology. Are you in a truthful frame of mind? Work towards mutually beneficial solutions? Tackling the right problem? Being truthful? Bullshitting yourself? Telling well-worn stories and well-worn set pieces. Is there something you need to say? Are you taking action based on guilt, shame or shoulds? Can you handle your physiology when faced with conflict or adversity or unexpected answers or a ‘no’ when you wanted a yes. Do you tend to get defensive? Do you even recognise that you are? Qualifying, over-explaining, all pretty shakey places to take action from. We can practice and explore all these things.
And thirdly; the luck. The magic. The mystical inexplicable. The things your can’t account for. Like when Microsoft was going to launch the Windows phone. A brilliant product with excellent reviews and fantastic projections. Then Apple announced the day before Windows Phone release, the new iPhone. Complete reverse in fortunes. Conversely, when I planned and budgeted my October holiday to the UK early 2016, I had no idea that the UK would inexplicably vote out of the EU, see the pound plummet and that I would enjoy essentially a half price holiday. Or a client who described her worst day ever to me in a lifeplan session, then wept big fat tears of truth (hashtag that) as she said she had just described her everyday, and that she needed to get out or move on. Then miraculously, the following week, moved departments, got a new boss, a new desk, with a better view and got more respect, more honesty and the last time we spoke, she said that everything is better, this is the third element, the luck, the magic isn’t it?
And at the intersection of these three elements is of course. A sense of humor. Because to be human is to be constantly made to laugh at ourselves. Because, in the immortal words of the lovely Elizabeth Gilbert, we are psychomonkeys containing divinity. More divine. Less psychomonkey. Or make friends with your psychomonkey. But be aware. Your psychomonkey is there, on your back and as an ego the size of a planet and cannot bear for you to be wrong. My psychomonkey often gets in the vehicle. But it’s a disaster when he drives. I can talk to your psychomonkey. And check in when he is driving. And inquire as to what his purpose is. And ask him to get in the passenger seat. And put his flipping seatbelt on and watch the iPad while you drive.
“I love how fun, authentic and beautiful you are. I feel so comfortable with you that I manage to be vulnerable and honest in your presence. I admire how you manage yourself”.
I can help you to navigate the challenges of change, heartbreak, letting go, being let go and tease out the learning. I’ve done it all, coached it all. Walked away. Been left. broken relationships, mended relationships. Left jobs, lost jobs, started business, changed direction, been in jobs I hated for way too long and have voices that tell me I’m not good enough, but I do the work anyway. Because so what? I can help you have a better experience of that. A truer experience. There is room for all the feelings and all the things in our totally confidential sessions. I will not even allude to the fact we are in sessions together. Never. Unless you want to – that’s up to you.
EVERYTHING I SUGGEST IS AN OFFER, INVITATION OR PROPOSAL. YOU SHOULD QUESTION EVERYTHING, TAKES WHAT FEELS GOOD AND LEAVE WHAT DOESN’T.
We can delve into your psychometric profile and find out what your communication preferences are and how you typically get and give energy. We can look at your workplace competencies and lean into your strengths and bolster, or outsource (my favorite) your weaknesses
Sometimes I get so proud of my client’s progress or raw honesty I could burst. And my eyes water. And I get full body goosebumps (FBGs). Sometimes my client’s eyes water and I pass the virtual or real-time tissues and let the space open for that wave of emotion shifting to open space.
Sometime I make quite direct offers and suggestions and share my hunches. All of which can be rejected, discussed or investigated as we mine for truth (see FBGs; tears).
Why so reasonable? I want middle-income women, start-ups and entrepreneurs to have access to coaching. For a sustainable length of time.
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Still not sure? This is what people have said about coaching with me and the programme…
“What I like very much about Sarah’s approach is what I would call the “no-bullshit-attitude”. She is very kind, generous and careful with her clients, but when it comes to the core of it, she will nail you down. She will let you beat around the bush for a little while, but then ask you exactly the right questions to make all your improvised excuses and arguments fade away to leave you with the bare truth. Her coaching helps me to stay in the driver’s seat of my life. It constantly reminds me that there is no-one else to sort things out for me and that I am very well able to take care of myself. She encourages me to be patient with myself and kind and generous to myself. She helps me to stay focussed, to develop clear objectives and to stay on track. I would recommend her coaching to everyone who has the slightest doubt about anything they do in their lives. We all can carry on for very long even if we know that it does not feel right. But the sooner you start dealing with your doubts, the less time you will waste on pondering and finally feeling unhappy.” February is the New January Client (Heike Geiling, Founder of Beyond www.beyondglobalmindset.com)
“Sarah is open, listens so very easy to talk to on anything, honest, and realistic and makes encouraging suggestions. (She helped) clarify the key actions and behaviors I need to take on to overcome the challenges and journey ahead. As an Asian female leader working in different culture of western global company, it really helps to be able to talk to someone who knows global/ western/ Asian – Japan context. It is easy to be lost here, but coaching helps me stay on the foot and see the directions I want to pave thru clearly. I would recommend Sarah to any Asian female leader colleagues and friends of mine. Male leaders who may be facing to lead in Asian / Japanese culture” Corporate Client (Hisae Morii, Unilever)
“Sarah’s style shows that knowing oneself – flaws and all – is both powerful and empowering. Sarah has a no-BS approach and allows me to re-evaluate my history honestly and not rely on my often told stories which have held me back.
She lets me be vulnerable in a safe place without fear of judgement or cynicism or pity. It also helps me to identify my own BS and not be weighed down by it. I feel I am at a turning point in my life and while I am still not sure where this will take me, Sarah’s insight provides much needed clarity and honesty that I am not able to find elsewhere. I would recommend Sarah to anybody in a rut or anybody who is wanting more from their day to day grind. ” February is the new January Client (Tracey Northcott, Co-founder of Enfour )
“Sarah’s style is fluid and sensitive to your needs. She’s a great coach who takes the time to hear your story and helps put together constructive mind maps to help you get focused on what’s present in your life -what’s working and what might not be serving you so well. She helped me build my confidence and having her cheering me on from the sidelines is very encouraging. I would recommend her to anyone who’s not sure about what they can offer the world.” Private Client (Sorcha Chisolm, Singer/Musician/Voice Actor)
“Sarah is a sophisticated communicator and person-whisperer. She is able to hone in on your specific personality and the way you tick. Sarah is perceptive about the way the world is pulling and pushing you at any point in time and provides on-point coaching guidance on how to navigate through the big and small waves. I like how Sarah commenced the coaching with a general session and the opportunity to complete the Saville personality survey and Lumina psychometrics which she pulls up now and then throughout the months of coaching and interestingly it reveals a lot about ingrained aspects of your way of thinking that can hold you back. Sarah sets homework which is never graded or anything like that but it is followed up on if you choose to do so. Nothing is compulsory. Sarah often says that it is a buffet and we choose what to select to eat, go back for seconds for or decide not to taste.
The coaching helps me because though I have a lot of great friends and family enveloping me, Sarah provides a third party independent view of the world I am swimming in and through, and supplements the advice I get from my “personal board of directors” as well as challenging my views or those of others. Sarah doesn’t dismiss the input of others but merely causes me to think a little more deeply or differently about how to interpret the advice or comments of others. In this way, she makes sure I have not dismissed something valid too quickly or not considered something that could be really helpful for me, or indeed not taken on board a negative comment from someone when it is just about them and not about me. This has been a particularly important aspect of growth for me in this year that I don’t think I would have thought about had Sarah not been there to help me see that was happening with the way I was interpreting other’s comments.
I think Sarah’s coaching is particularly useful for anyone who is going through a change in career or challenges in their lives. The FNJ invitation came across my path as I was breaking out from the Corporate world to new horizons as an entrepreneur. I believe things happen for a reason so I signed up as a worthy investment in myself! I recommend engaging Sarah if you are in that kind of cross roads situation and need some external guidance on how to tackle the path ahead.
In my case I continued to interview for Corporate roles, as well as dip my toes in the pool of possibilities with being my own boss. Though Sarah is an entrepreneur herself, she never showed bias in that direction and simply guided me on choices I had to make and with her help (though she would say it is all my doing) I came to well thought out, confident and better decision for myself to launch my own business in 2018, which will suit my career plan and life plan.” February is the New January Client (Catherine O’Connell, Lawpreneur)
“Sarah is awesome! She’s warm and kind but also funny, smart, fierce, and oh so insightful. I love the way that Sarah uses all the tools: science, psychology, a bit of woo woo, and lots of really, really practical strategies. She knows her stuff and can back up what she’s saying, but she’ll also call your attention to the FBGs (full body goosebumps!), honor the moment of a breakthrough with reverent silence, and read over the draft of that scary email for you before you send it. She is exactly the person you want in your corner: someone who is ALWAYS on your side, but who is also going to see through your bullshit and call you on it – in a gentle way, or a funny way, or whatever way is going to work for you at the time. But always with so much love.
The coaching helps me to get out of my own head. It gives me clarity and perspective and helps me to course correct. The coaching I have done with Sarah has helped me shift some really entrenched dynamics in my life. And it wasn’t even that hard. It was a little bit hard to get to the truth, but even that was okay because I wasn’t doing it alone. And then, when the truth became clear, everything felt easier and lighter. I’ve read SO MANY books and they have helped me to grow gradually over time, but working with Sarah feels like a shortcut!
I would especially recommend Sarah’s coaching to anyone who could really use an ally who is all about looking after you and your business. If you need someone to really listen to you and help you work through the ins and outs of an issue that’s bothering you, or if you would like to have someone in your corner who won’t ever be pushing her own agenda, then Sarah’s coaching will make all the difference.
If you have trouble “putting on your own oxygen mask first” then working with Sarah will help you to take better care of yourself, so that you can be a more amazing (and happier!) version of you for the people you love, and for yourself.” February is the New January Client (Sarah, Entrepreneur)
“You know you’re in the right place when you leave it feeling more whole, in thoughts and feelings, then when you arrived. I recently attended one of Sarah’s events at Find your Element which helped me more than I anticipated in bringing clarity to a plan that Ive been working on casually for the last couple of months. Sarah has this incredible talent to make the journey to self improvement if its looking into the past, figuring out the now or imagining the future, look like the most amazing journey with no regrets, only lessons to take while moving on. During this session I personally became aware of the lack of playfulness I had in the past and equally aware on the playfulness I now acquired and enjoy, in my personal life as well as in work. Im looking forward to the next event with Sarah Everitt Furuya adding some of her positive energy in my growth process called life.” Workshop Participant (Abigail Terrien-Taugwalder, www.abisjournal.com/)