Grief Support Community - Lighthouse Circle 2024

Grief is hard, really hard. Your grief is also sacred and deserves to be honored and tended to with compassion. Lighthouse Circle is a grief support community that encourages you to tend to your grief in your own way and in your own time. Grief can be isolating, so our mission is hold space for people to grieve openly and honestly within a supportive community. 

Structured to provide practical support that you can access anytime and anywhere, Lighthouse circle also offers you a place to feel heard and seen in your grief.  

The six month program includes monthly 90 minute gatherings on zoom, as well as journal prompts, ritual prompts, guided meditations, videos, resource materials and more.

Is Lighthouse Circle Grief Support Group right for me?

Lighthouse circle is Personalized

Each person's grief is unique and personal. Lighthouse Circle provides support as you tend to your grief in your own way and on your own schedule with easy to access content and resources.

  Lighthouse Circle is  Holistic

Grief affects our mind, body and heart.  We created a holistic approach to honor you as a whole person and to allow space for sorrow and joy to coexist. Everything belongs and nothing is judged.

Lighthouse Circle is Compassionate 

Self compassion skills are encouraged as an essential part of grief care. Grief is hard and can feel isolating, but you are not alone. We hold you in loving kindness. We build community in meaningful and lasting ways.

What is Lighthouse Circle?

Online content will be presented in six main topics discussing various elements of grief. The lighthouse circle program also incorporates live group calls at 2 different times a month.

Witnessing Grief 

Resourcing and Taking Refuge

Dealing with Difficult Emotions

Secondary Losses

Redefining Relationships

Integrating Grief

Within each topic there are six categories: journal prompt, ritual prompt, guided meditation, embodied practice, resources and community space.

Once you sign up you will receive an email soon welcoming you to Lighthouse Circle beginning in October 2024, we will open up the group and you will gain access to content for the first month. At the start of each new month you will get access to the new content and an email from us.

Grief is never linear and this program is a gentle and caring companion


Journal Prompt

Writing about our thoughts, feelings and experiences in an unfiltered way provides a release for emotions, allows for reflection and offers insight.

Ritual Prompt

Often simple, rituals are intentionally performed to honor loved ones, connect to the sacred and tap into a source of inner knowing.

Guided Meditation

Mindfulness meditation helps ground us with kindness and build the capacity to feel our feelings without judgment.

Embodied Practice

Grief is held in our bodies. We offer simple ways to move, breath and self soothe as an offering of compassion and gratitude to ourselves.  

Resources 

A video of Gretchen and Sarah discussing each topic, as well as printouts, links and activities are included in each resource category. 

Private Group area 

You will receive access to a dedicated cohort Facebook page where we will interact, process and share things we have found useful. It’s a place for dialogue and downloading, for connecting and being together between calls. It will be live throughout the 6 month journey.

COST

6 monthly payments of ¥7,700 (approx. $50)

If you prefer to make a one time payment of ¥42000 (approx. $290) you can do so with button above or below or for bank transfer please contact us by email at info@sarahfuruya.com

Cancellation Policy - A full refund minus any service changes will be provided if requested by October 11th.  After that we cannot offer any refunds. Please note that this is a six month commitment and out of respect for others and a desire to build trust in community, we ask that everyone keeps this in mind. 

Financial Assistance is available if needed. Please contact Gretchen at gretchenmiura@gmail.com  for more information.

Schedule and Cost

Two options for group calls - In general they follow this pattern.

A) 3rd week Tuesday of each month @ 8:00pm ~ 9:30 pm  JST / Tokyo 

      OR

B) 3rd week Thursday of each month @ 9:00am ~ 10:30am JST / Tokyo 

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Please note however the first call will be 2nd week for October.

October: Tuesday October 8th 8pm JST or Thursday October 10th at 9am  JST

November: Tuesady November 19th at 8pm JST or  Thursday November 21st at 9am JST

December: Tuesday December 17th at 8pm JST or 19th December at 9am JST

January: Tuesday January 21s at 8pm JST or  or January 23rd at 9am JST

February: Tuesday February 18th at 8pmJST  or 20th February at 9am JST

March: *Thusrday March 13th at 8pm JST or Tuesday March 18th  at 8pm JST 

*A change because of Japanese  public holiday

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For locations outside of Japan, please check your local time and dates here at timezone converter.

If you are based in North America, the Tuesday call will be on your Tuesday mornings. The Thureaday call will be on your Wednesday evenings. 

We will have 6 group calls during a 6 month period.

There will be a private webpage with regularly updated resources, recorded interviews, journal and ritual prompts and group conversations that are accessible to members anytime throughout the program. 

Meet your Guides

Sarah Furuya

Hi, I am Sarah  and I live by the sea South of Tokyo, near the sacred shores of Kamakura, and from there I  run my coaching business and Legends Podcast. The heart of my practice is the many ways to lead a life, and working with and telling people’s stories. I honor the influence of those passed and create space and ritual for them and their presence in my coaching spaces. I am passionate about  looking at the taboos and lost traditions around death, mourning and grief.

Gretchen Miura

Hi, I'm Gretchen. I live in Japan with my family where we run DAIRYUJI Zen temple. Making grief support and mindfulness accessible for everyone to nurture well-being and a sense of belonging is my life's work. I studied with David Kessler to become a grief educator and under Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield to gain my mindfulness meditation teachers certificate. I love leading workshops, classes and retreats. My brother Chris died when I was five years old which deeply influenced my views on death and grief, ultimately guiding me to this calling. Drawing on many years of exploration, learning and unlearning, I am passionate about bringing elements of ritual, spirituality, creativity and mindfulness to create a supportive atmosphere at Lighthouse Circle.

FAQs

  • Lighthouse Circle is for anyone needing support as they grieve a loss. Grief is the natural, emotional response to a loss. We never judge, minimize or compare grief at Lighthouse Circle. Your grief is your grief. 

    The grief you are experiencing is valid. You are safe here to honor and express that grief.

    There are many kinds of losses including the death of a family member, a loved one, friend, neighbor, acquaintance or co-worker.

    Other types of loss include relationships ending,  job loss, pregnancy loss, death of a pet as well as loss of lifestyle due to injury or illness. Caring for elderly parents, being estranged from loved ones or anticipating a loss are all acknowledged here.   

    Lighthouse Circle is also a space to tend to older, unresolved grief or grief that has been passed down generationally. 

    We are also experiencing a sense of collective grief with current world issues. 

    While much of the language reflects a physical death, please make any adjustments to fit your personal situation.

  • Within a few days of signing up you will receive another email welcoming you to LC and explaining the program. You will have access to the Introduction and Witnessing Grief content online soon after.

    We recommend taking some time to first go through the introduction section to get acquainted with the format. 

    If you have any trouble at any stage please reach out to info@sarahfuruya.com for troubleshooting.

    The six topics are:

    1. Witnessing Grief

    2. Resourcing and Taking Refuge

    3. Dealing with Difficult Emotions

    4. Secondary Losses

    5. Redefining Relationships

    6. Integrating Grief

    Each topic has five categories including: 

    • journal prompt

    • ritual prompt

    • guided meditation

    • embodied practice 

    • resources 

    We suggest watching the videos (in resources) each time we begin a new topic. We explain the theme and often discuss it within the context of our own grief. We want you to know that you are not alone in your grief. We will cover the same topic during our monthly zoom gathering. 

    We encourage you to keep a grief journal for the journal prompts, various activities and anything else that comes up.  Writing is a very powerful tool.

    There are other engaging elements such as ritual, meditation and activities, so think of the content as a jumping off place. You can do as much or as little as you like. Lighthouse Circle is a source of support to use however you like. 

    Gretchen and Sarah are always available if you have any questions, concerns or requests. 

    Lighthouse Circle has monthly 90 minute meetings. In addition to that you may want to set aside time to go through content and prompts.

    Grief drains our energy and motivation, so we do recommend setting aside a set amount of time in a regular interval to help create a routine.

    For example, you could dedicate one hour per week every Sunday afternoon or 10 minutes a day before bed. Make it easy on yourself. Perhaps combine reading content or doing prompts with a favorite drink or do it during a time of day that feels most calm. 

    Grief is hard enough as it is so we don't want Lighthouse Circle to ever feel like a chore. We also know that you cannot control grief and there may be times you really don't care about the content. That belongs too. It is ok. We hope Lighthouse Circle can be a source of support that holds space for you to tend to your grief even (or especially!) when it is messy.

  • Two options for group calls - In general they follow this pattern.

    A) 3rd week Tuesday of each month @ 8:00pm ~ 9:30 pm  JST / Tokyo 

          OR

    B) 3rd week Thursday of each month @ 9:00am ~ 10:30am JST / Tokyo 

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    The first call will be 2nd week fo October.


    October:

    Tuesday October 8th 8pm JST or Thursday October 10th at 9am  JST

    November:

    Tuesady November 19th at 8pm JST or  Thursday November 21st at 9am JST

    December:

    Tuesday December 17th at 8pm JST or 19th December at 9am JST

    January:

    Tuesday January 21s at 8pm JST or  or January 23rd at 9am JST

    February:

    Tuesday February 18th at 8pmJST  or 20th February at 9am JST

    March:

    *Thusrday March 13th at 8pm JST or Tuesday March 18th  at 8pm JST 



    *A change because of Japanese  public holiday

     

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    Locations outside of Japan, please check your local time and dates here at

    timezone converter

    .

    If you are based in North America, the Tuesday call will be on your Tuesday mornings. The Friday call will be on your Thursdays evenings. 

    We will have 6 groups calls during a 6 month period.

    There will be a private webpage with regularly updated resources, recorded interviews, journal and ritual prompts and group conversations that are accessible to members anytime throughout the program.

  • Lighthouse Circle is a 6 month grief support community that has monthly gatherings on zoom. The topics, categories and content are the same as Evergreen. We run Lighthouse Circle twice a year. Participation is limited to protect privacy and foster a sense of connection.

    Evergreen is entirely self paced. You can join anytime and will have unlimited access to content. There are no group meetings in Evergreen.  

    You can sign up for Evergreen HERE

“It was the warmest and most enveloping cocoon to be in that sacred space.”


- Lighthouse Circle participant